Top Takeaways | The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

It's unconventional. It's bold. It's harsh. 

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck is unlike any other self-help book. Mark Manson 

ruthlessly analyzes “how to live a good life” without an ounce of sugar-coating. He 

doesn’t add fluff to make you feel better. He says it as it is. He writes with a casual and 

relatable voice making it an extremely engaging and humorous read - as long as you 

don’t mind the f-bomb every other word. Personally, I found many of his points to apply 

more to personal life than the professional field, but some of his points are transferable 

to both areas of life. 

 

Mark Manson has a unique way with words. So, here are my top 9 takeaways in his 

language. 

 

1. “Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated 

negative experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it 

or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The 

avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what 

is shameful is itself a form of shame. “

2. “The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, 

paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive 

experience. ”

  

3. “This is the most simple and basic component of life: our struggles determine our 

successes.” 

4. “The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.” 

5. “Unhealthy love is based on two people trying to escape their problems through 

their emotions for each other—in other words, they’re using each other as an 

escape. Healthy love is based on two people acknowledging and addressing 

their own problems with each other’s support.”  

6. “We suffer for the simple reason that suffering is biologically useful. It is nature’s 

preferred agent for inspiring change.” 

7. “Don’t hope for a life without problems... Instead, hope for a life full of good 

problems.”  

8. “We, individually are responsible for everything in our lives, no matter the 

external circumstance. We don’t always control what happens to us, but we 

always control how we interpret what happens to us as well as how we respond.” 

9. “Confronting the reality of our own mortality is important because it obliterates all 

the crappy, fragile, superficial values in life.” 

Manson’s somewhat cynical view on life is refreshing. His boldness and audacity are 

what draws the reader in. If you are looking for a slap to the face, check out his book! 

Kayla SanoyComment